Monday, September 29, 2008

Dear Beloveds

hey Beloveds,
i really really enjoyed myself on saturday :) just realised that some of the photos i look abit stone... yeah... its not like i got no feelings... haha. I was genuinely surprised.. when you all were singing happy bday... i thought how come joel pronounced clarice name wrongly... CHARLES and CLARICE very different spelling leh... only realised when i saw the names on the cake.. haha

Didnt have the guts to say to you all in person but just wanna let u guys know that i really love you all too... and i definetly feel loved by you all :) Daddy God is so amazing... my first CG in new creation and he placed me in JC south. i definitely see God's love through u all in so many ways, like how u all encourage and take care of one another... haha... i still remember all the reservations i had when i thought if i should join Arrow and a CG... cos of last time in my old church.. but thats the past :)

Thank you so much for everything manz... May we continue to walk in Abba's favour and love for us! Happy Birthday KAILIN, CLARICE AND YEUKEED!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sunday, September 28, 2008

Birthdays!

Dear Charles, Yeu Keed, Clarice & Kailin,

Blessed Birthday!

Love,
The Southie Family











Sunday, September 21, 2008

Saturday, 27th sept, JC southies outing!

HarlowHarlow!!! =)
This sat 27sept, we will be meeting out to grab some ice cream at Island Creamery, Serene Centre.
We understand dat this period of time is a crucial studying time, so in view of dat, we could go to HuiYi's house for a mass study session tgt after ice cream if you want.
All JC southies are welcomed to join us. Do try to make it! =)

Details are as follows:
Meeting: Toa Payoh MRT
Time: 12.30pm
(If u can get there straight on your own, greatt! we will see you at 1pm!) But do let us noe.
Also, do get a light lunch on your own before meeting.

lastly, do confirm ur attendance and whether u will be meeting at TP MRT by either replying to this post or contacting HuiYi at 97837453, or Sheryl at 98469882. Thank you!!! =)

Don’t work. Avoid telling the truth. Be hated. Love someone.

Read if you have the time.interesting.no link though.

The following text, a speech presented to graduating WKWSCI students in the recent Convocation. The speaker, Adrian Tan, is a litigation lawyer, who wrote the popular The Teenage Textbook which was later made into a film in the late 1990s.

Life and How to Survive It

I must say thank you to the faculty and staff of the Wee Kim Wee School of Communication and Information for inviting me to give your convocation address. It’s a wonderful honour and a privilege for me to speak here for ten minutes without fear of contradiction, defamation or retaliation. I say this as a Singaporean and more so as a husband.

My wife is a wonderful person and perfect in every way except one. She is the editor of a magazine. She corrects people for a living. She has honed her expert skills over a quarter of a century, mostly by practising at home during conversations between her and me.

On the other hand, I am a litigator. Essentially, I spend my day telling people how wrong they are. I make my living being disagreeable. Nevertheless, there is perfect harmony in our matrimonial home. That is because when an editor and a litigator have an argument, the one who triumphs is always the wife.

And so I want to start by giving one piece of advice to the men: when you’ve already won her heart, you don’t need to win every argument. Marriage is considered one milestone of life. Some of you may already be married. Some of you may never be married. Some of you will be married. Some of you will enjoy the experience so much, you will be married many, many times. Good for you.

The next big milestone in your life is today: your graduation. The end of education. You’re done learning.

You’ve probably been told the big lie that “Learning is a lifelong process” and that therefore you will continue studying and taking masters’ degrees and doctorates and professorships and so on. You know the sort of people who tell you that? Teachers. Don’t you think there is some measure of conflict of interest? They are in the business of learning, after all. Where would they be without you? They need you to be repeat customers.

The good news is that they’re wrong.

The bad news is that you don’t need further education because your entire life is over. It is gone. That may come as a shock to some of you. You’re in your teens or early twenties. People may tell you that you will live to be 70, 80, 90 years old. That is your life expectancy.

I love that term: life expectancy. We all understand the term to mean the average life span of a group of people. But I’m here to talk about a bigger idea, which is what you expect from your life.

You may be very happy to know that Singapore is currently ranked as the country with the third highest life expectancy. We are behind Andorra and Japan, and tied with San Marino. It seems quite clear why people in those countries, and ours, live so long. We share one thing in common: our football teams are all hopeless. There’s very little danger of any of our citizens having their pulses raised by watching us play in the World Cup. Spectators are more likely to be lulled into a gentle and restful nap.

Singaporeans have a life expectancy of 81.8 years. Singapore men live to an average of 79.21 years, while Singapore women live more than five years longer, probably to take into account the additional time they need to spend in the bathroom.

So here you are, in your twenties, thinking that you’ll have another 40 years to go. Four decades in which to live long and prosper.

Bad news. Read the papers. There are people dropping dead when they’re 50, 40, 30 years old. Or quite possibly just after finishing their convocation. They would be very disappointed that they didn’t meet their life expectancy.

I’m here to tell you this. Forget about your life expectancy.

After all, it’s calculated based on an average. And you never, ever want to expect being average.

Revisit those expectations. You might be looking forward to working, falling in love, marrying, raising a family. You are told that, as graduates, you should expect to find a job paying so much, where your hours are so much, where your responsibilities are so much.

That is what is expected of you. And if you live up to it, it will be an awful waste.

If you expect that, you will be limiting yourself. You will be living your life according to boundaries set by average people. I have nothing against average people. But no one should aspire to be them. And you don’t need years of education by the best minds in Singapore to prepare you to be average.What you should prepare for is mess. Life’s a mess. You are not entitled to expect anything from it. Life is not fair. Everything does not balance out in the end. Life happens, and you have no control over it.Good and bad things happen to you day by day, hour by hour, moment by> moment. Your degree is a poor armour against fate.

Don’t expect anything. Erase all life expectancies. Just live. Your life is over as of today. At this point in time, you have grown as tall as you will ever be, you are physically the fittest you will ever be in your entire life and you are probably looking the best that you will ever look. This is as good as it gets. It is all downhill from here. Or up. No one knows.

What does this mean for you? It is good that your life is over.

Since your life is over, you are free. Let me tell you the many wonderful things that you can do when you are free.

The most important is this: do not work. Work is anything that you are compelled to do. By its very nature, it is undesirable.Work kills. The Japanese have a term “Karoshi”, which means death from overwork. That’s the most dramatic form of how work can kill. But it can also kill you in more subtle ways. If you work, then day by day, bit by bit, your soul is chipped away, disintegrating until there’s nothing left. A rock has been ground into sand and dust

There’s a common misconception that work is necessary. You will meet people working at miserable jobs. They tell you they are “making a living”. No, they’re not. They’re dying, frittering away their fast-extinguishing lives doing things which are, at best, meaningless and, at worst, harmful.

People will tell you that work ennobles you, that work lends you a certain dignity. Work makes you free. The slogan “Arbeit macht frei” was placed at the entrances to a number of Nazi concentration camps. Utter nonsense.

Do not waste the vast majority of your life doing something you hate so that you can spend the small remainder sliver of your life in modest comfort. You may never reach that end anyway.

Resist the temptation to get a job. Instead, play. Find something you enjoy doing. Do it. Over and over again. You will become good at it for two reasons: you like it, and you do it often. Soon, that will have value in itself.

I like arguing, and I love language. So, I became a litigator. I enjoy it and I would do it for free. If I didn’t do that, I would’ve been in some other type of work that still involved writing fiction - probably a sports journalist.

So what should you do? You will find your own niche. I don’t imagine you will need to look very hard. By this time in your life, you will have a very good idea of what you will want to do. In fact, I’ll go further and say the ideal situation would be that you will not be able to stop yourself pursuing your passions. By this time you should know what your obsessions are. If you enjoy showing off your knowledge and feeling superior, you might become a teacher.

Find that pursuit that will energise you, consume you, become an obsession. Each day, you must rise with a restless enthusiasm. If you don’t, you are working.

Most of you will end up in activities which involve communication. To those of you I have a second message: be wary of the truth. I’m not asking you to speak it, or write it, for there are times when it is dangerous or impossible to do those things. The truth has a great capacity to offend and injure, and you will find that the closer you are to someone, the more care you must take to disguise or even conceal the truth. Often, there is great virtue in being evasive, or equivocating. There is also great skill. Any child can blurt out the truth, without thought to the consequences. It takes great maturity to appreciate the value of silence.

In order to be wary of the truth, you must first know it. That requires great frankness to yourself. Never fool the person in the mirror.

I have told you that your life is over, that you should not work, and that you should avoid telling the truth. I now say this to you: be hated. It’s not as easy as it sounds. Do you know anyone who hates you? Yet every great figure who has contributed to the human race has been hated, not just by one person, but often by a great many. That hatred is so strong it has caused those great figures to be shunned, abused, murdered and in one famous instance, nailed to a cross.

One does not have to be evil to be hated. In fact, it’s often the case that one is hated precisely because one is trying to do right by one’s own convictions. It is far too easy to be liked, one merely has to be accommodating and hold no strong convictions. Then one will gravitate towards the centre and settle into the average. That cannot be your role. There are a great many bad people in the world, and if you are not offending them, you must be bad yourself. Popularity is a sure sign that you are doing something wrong.

The other side of the coin is this: fall in love. I didn’t say “be loved”. That requires too much compromise. If one changes one’s looks, personality and values, one can be loved by anyone.

Rather, I exhort you to love another human being. It may seem odd for me to tell you this. You may expect it to happen naturally, without deliberation. That is false. Modern society is anti-love. We’ve taken a microscope to everyone to bring out their flaws and shortcomings. It far easier to find a reason not to love someone, than otherwise. Rejection requires only one reason. Love requires complete acceptance. It is hard work - the only kind of work that I find palatable.

Loving someone has great benefits. There is admiration, learning, attraction and something which, for the want of a better word, we call happiness. In loving someone, we become inspired to better ourselves in every way. We learn the truth worthlessness of material things. We celebrate being human. Loving is good for the soul.

Loving someone is therefore very important, and it is also important to choose the right person. Despite popular culture, love doesn’t happen by chance, at first sight, across a crowded dance floor. It grows slowly, sinking roots first before branching and blossoming. It is not a silly weed, but a mighty tree that weathers every storm.

You will find, that when you have someone to love, that the face is less important than the brain, and the body is less important than the heart.

You will also find that it is no great tragedy if your love is not reciprocated. You are not doing it to be loved back. Its value is to inspire you.

Finally, you will find that there is no half-measure when it comes to loving someone. You either don’t, or you do with every cell in your body, completely and utterly, without reservation or apology. It consumes you, and you are reborn, all the better for it.

Don’t work. Avoid telling the truth. Be hated. Love someone.

You’re going to have a busy life. Thank goodness there’s no life expectancy.

Thursday, September 18, 2008

random.

hello JC south peopleeee!

Just wanna tell you all here that: I MISS YOU ALL VERY MUCH!!! yup, i hope everyone's doing good eh? yups im sure you are cause you're God's child! yeah sorry for this very random post here, but i just wanna tell ya all that I MISS YOU! (:

hope to see ya all around during arrow this sat, if not then on the 27th for ISLAND CREAMERY!! im very excited excited! yay!! yozzz God bless ya all in everything that you set your hands to do and yup, JESUS LOVES YOU!!!! (but He loves me the most muahahas)

CHEERSSSS! <3

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

From Growing Strong in the Seasons of Life by Charles Swindoll

I fear our generation has come dangerously near the ''I'm-getting-tired-so-let's-quit'' mentality. And not just in the spiritual realm. Dieting is a disciple, so we stay fat. Finishing school is a hassle, so we bail out. Cultivating a close relationship is painful, so we back off. Getting a book written is demanding, so we stop short. Working through conflicts in marriage is a tiring struggle, so we walk away. Sticking with an occupation is tough, so we start looking elsewhere....

Ignace Jan Paderewski, the famous composer-pianist, was scheduled to perform at a great concert hall in America. It was an evening to remember- black tuxedoes and long evening dresses, a high society extravaganza. Present in the audience that evening was a mother with her fidgety nine-year-old son. Weary of waiting, he squirmed constantly in his seat. His mother was in hopes that her boy would be encouraged to practice the piano if he could just hear the immortal Paderewski at the keyboard. So- against his wishes- he had come.

As she turned to talk with friends, her son could stay seated no longer. He slipped away from her side, strangely drawn to the ebony concert grand Steinway and its leather tufted stool, staring wide-eyed at the black and white keys. He placed his small, trembling fingers in the right location and began to play ''chopsticks.'' The roar of the crowd was hushed as hundreds of frowning faces turned in his direction. Irritated and embarrassed, they began to shout:

''Get that boy away from here!''
''Who'd bring a kid that young here?''
''Where's his mother?''
''Somebody stop him!''

Backstage, the master overheard the sounds out front and quickly put together in his mind what was happening. Hurriedly, he grabbed his coat and rushed towards the stage. Without one word of announcement he stooped over behind the boy, reached around both sides, and began to improvise a counter melody to harmonize and enhance ''chopsticks.'' As the two of them played together, Paderewski kept whispering in the boy's ear:

Keep going. Don't quit, son. Keep on playing... don't stop; don't quit.

And so it is with us. We hammer away on out project, which seems about as significant as ''chopsticks'' in a concert hall. And about the time we are ready to give up, along comes the Master, who leans over and whispers:

Now keep going; don't quit. Keep on... don't stop; don't quit.

Is there a project in your life that you've given up on because of discouragement? No matter how great the task, God promises to help us through if we are obedient to him. Today, get back on track with your project and hold fast to the promise that God will see you through it.

Being obedient to God means allowing God to help you. Don't rely on your own strength and effort. He is God, trust in him. For he will never fail you. And for God, a promise is a promise. He will see you through. =)

Monday, September 1, 2008

Just feel like expressing my thoughts

Hey dear friends,
Now can feel the work pilling up... I'm trusting Abba to bring me thru day by day... just feel like writing something and i'll be quick.
Just wanna say that I really feel that confessing God's word and speaking God's promises really helps me to go thru the day. if there is anything to be stubborn about, it is to know that God's Word is true, even if we dont see the manifestation yet. Continue to claim God's promises for our life. Dont let other people's experiences or even our own experiences dictate what we can recieve from Him. Pastor said before, the Word of God shouldnt be brought down to our level of experience but we should let our experience measure up to God's Word. Meaning that if we have been believing God for something but we still cant see the results, doesnt mean the promises of God is not true for us or only a selected few can recieve them. If you have a sickness that has affected u for a long time already, Daddy God wants you to be well and whole. For me its my sweaty palms and my pimples.. haha.. dont laugh... Whatever your need, Jesus will supply. Claim it, everyday in faith.
His favour is upon you and because He dwells in you, u are a success! Amen! Blessings will chase after u because of Christ in you. Jesus is the fifth cubit, He is everything that we try to achieve based on our works/flesh but cannot.
Jesus, you are my saviour. I cannot but u can... I have to depend totally on u already cos im at a lost as to what to do. I cannot cope with my studies, You'll have to save me.. I cannot cope with my peers, they are so much smarter than me, Dad, u are my wisdom. When im lonely, u are there. When i am afraid, u comfort me. Jesus, you are more than enough for me.
watch what Jesus will do... our situation will start to turn around for good before we even realise. Jesus, I trust in your Word. After all, He has already brought us so far....
Sorry, what i write is in a mess :) Share a song that i like :)